Lisa Sauder, CEO of Alzheimer's Resource of Alaska, with her mother on a Valentine's Day in the past. Sauder became an advocate for people with dementia after caring for her own mother.
When I think of Mother's Day, I think about the woman who always encouraged me to go after what I wanted. My mom believed in education, independence, and making the most of opportunities-values she passed on to me from a young age. So, when her memory started to slip and things became more uncertain, I knew it was my turn to step in.
It happened quickly. She had been living in Idaho, and at first the signs were subtle, repeating herself, forgetting details, growing more anxious. Then I got a call from her neighbor; they were worried about her. I booked a flight and went to see what was going on. Once I got there, I realized things were not OK and she couldn't manage living on her own anymore.
I made the decision to bring her back to Alaska, thinking she just needed a little more structure and support. What I didn't realize is that I had just become her full-time caregiver-overnight.
I wasn't ready. I didn't have a plan. I didn't have a medical background or training in dementia care. I was just a daughter trying to do the right thing. And like so many others, I found myself overwhelmed navigating doctor visits, medications, changes in behavior, and my own emotions all at once.
I didn't even know Alzheimer's Resource of Alaska existed.
Looking back, that's what I wish I could change most. I wish I had known that support was out there-education, guidance,
connection-for people like me. I struggled physically and emotionally.
I tried to be everything to everyone. I didn't know where to turn. And the worst part? I didn't know I didn't have to do it alone.
Today, I'm the CEO of Alzheimer's Resource of Alaska. I often get asked how I found my way here, and my answer is simple: because I lived it. I know what it feels like to wake up at 2 a.m. in panic, to feel guilty for needing help, to wonder if you're doing enough-or doing it right. And I don't want anyone else to walk that path in the dark.
That's why we're here.
For over 40 years Alzheimer's Resource of Alaska has served families across the state with free memory screenings, dementia education, support groups, individualized care coordination, and so much more. Our team walks beside caregivers every day answering questions, offering guidance, and providing comfort so that you can do this, and you don't have to do it alone.
This Mother's Day, I honor my mom by sharing our story. And I honor you-whether you're a caregiver, a family member, or someone watching a loved one slowly change before your eyes.
You are not alone. Help is out there. And we are here to walk with you.
To learn more or reach out for support, visit www.AlzAlaska.org or call our Anchorage office at 907-561-3313.
Lisa Sauder is the CEO of Alzheimer's Resource of Alaska.
